About The Conversation

It's depressing to see how ruthlessly tramples pragmatism the last vestiges of ancient and subtle art of good conversation. Da grime confront the cruel reality that evidence that those privileged beings who made his parliamentary office a brilliant and delicious existential, are now all but extinct creatures prey to dull darts of modernism. And, what happens?. Simply that people in their obsessive desire to produce, with that enormous practical sense that only pursues the useful purposes of things, have moved to San Alejo quarter of this ritual on their preferences before the spirits enriched and strengthened the arms of the relationship social.

Several factors explain this state of affairs.

First, it is a problem of availability of time, given the current conditions of working hours, overtime, time spent in transportation, multiple offices, simultaneous studies, etc. We all know that holding a "socially acceptable level" of life requires a grand effort that captures most of the hours, energy consumption and reduces the vocation and the desire for any kind of intellectual production, emotional, artistic, or emotional. Parallel to this, but not necessarily outside of it, there's that constant tension, the stresses of everyday life that makes our balance is in a constant flirtation, which undermines any pretense of internal stability. And who would think that in such a state of mental chaos farmer can try to be unprepared art and lively conversation! We are also holders of permanent channeled anguish because, although we recognize the economic and social marathon in which we struggle makes us slowly and inexorably retainers fatigue, wickedness and resentment. Any chance of kindness and spontaneity is therefore defective.

On the other hand, the motivation that generates the call this constructive leisure and exultant, lost time, spending or gambling inofficious futile and pointless, it was not given due attention and necessary, and not invest in their cause the smallest portion of time daily.

Remember simultaneously creates certain stereotypes that society and force consumer to spend free time in less enrichment activities of the spirit (if I may use the term) and no less respectable, though not sharing the essence and the form some of them. Example to illustrate this topic is the management of television as a medium of communication (ie information, entertainment directed, alienation, etc..), The massive introduction of video games, computers, and prefabricated large sporting events, film as way of escape (detached from his role as creator of the thesis, an aspect that is less than the mass), unbridled alcohol consumption, drug addiction, etc..

It is noteworthy that several of these activities is only one man being passive in their relationship with the environment. Not impose any creative input from you. In others, the conversation is just a vehicle, not an end, otherwise technical, tax, or superficial, never understood in its full dimension.

The aversion to culture and knowledge (not proper to them, but the effort imposed to try to imbibe in them), mental laziness, social scorn, the narrow technocratic mentality, the tendency to the individual, hypocrisy citadina include some of the factors contributing to the loss of the love of conversation in the modern world man.

We have lost the taste of the conversation itself. Only used as a pretext for other purposes than previously determined and established beforehand. We insist, never end. Today almost confined to economically non-productive or solvents, or independent in relation to the process of wealth creation, as retirees, bohemians, intellectuals, prisoners, elderly and others who, despite their social, economic, political , cultural or intellectual, is rescued in all its magnitude and its intrinsic value in nature.

The conversation (not verbal) should not be exclusive to a specific sector of the population. It does not presuppose intellectual requirements, much less cultural. A cultivated mind can have a rich academic ability experiential anecdote that exploit their own or other issues in a nuanced enjoyable and enlightening, and why not, reflective and self-critical. A matter of simple condition can be rejuvenated by a charismatic talker supplemented with sympathy and grace what it lacks in depth. A seasoned contertulio can make certain everyday details of his life (romance, travel, sports, culture, science, jokes, grotesque events, daily work, politics, etc..), An event of speaking just put a little spirit to his string. Clearly, a well-understood cultural contribution significantly enhances the art of conversation. (We note here the existence of those pseudo-cultured specimens, dark architects of deception and banality that hold publicly claiming the stigma of transcendence, are nothing more than what a popular philosopher called "scholars of headlines, and pontiffs of snob the chopper ") above does not imply that it is inherent to the wise worship or power to captivate with the labia.

How many are there who, despite their baggage become unbearable by its nature biased, arrogant, disjointed, incoherent or deeply technical?.

It is not only a good conversationalist who dominates its partners with the magic of his prose easy, smooth, gentle, enigmatic or rogue, not just one that requires us to listen or absorbed by his grace as bright as this is available. It is also that respecting individual sparse sequence and layout of your chat partner throws intelligent and precise question at the right time, resulting in a renewal of spirit and enthusiasm of one and a confirmation of your interest from it. It is, as intuitively, a great listener, which allows us to approach another feature of good talker: his ability to listen, care and respect the speech of others.

Accuracy, malice, conviction, taste, humor, picaresque, emotion, intrigue, current affairs, fine sarcasm, technical or political interests are, together or separately, some of the letters of good conversation, which dominates and shapes to your accommodation on rightly incurred by it. In a similar level of importance as outlined earlier, is also valuable anatomical and physiological certain integrity and face by the exhibitor, we know what certain defects untimely vocal apparatus or certain tones of voice or misunderstanding some odors unrepentant and even some tics desperate.

A good conversationalist is consistent. You can be a good liar, even being a good imitator. Handles and knows irony or view points that motivate partner and exploits. Well used silences and pauses to renew or give a turn to his subject. Use the quick joke and suitable as a practical resource to escape certain situations or compromising. It is not necessarily talkative or jester, usually not accustomed to respect sensitivities and attitudes provoke conflict between his group. In short, claims the gift of conversation as something inherent to the human species and exclusive (???) it. Restores its usefulness in the field of communication, revitalizes and restores faith in social relations, promotes mutual understanding, lime rough, curiosity, promotes knowledge and restates the bonds between men.

You have to see how it feels to raise a world of trifles, without any pretense definable, the warmth of affection upholstered vigorous and heartfelt words. There is definitely for the man to recover the sublime pleasure of good conversation. So we will gain more and better conversationalists and therefore need, (sorry for them), fewer psychoanalysts.